Getting Blown Out! Want It--It Will Just Make You Stronger!

I remember when I started to go out and actively pick up on women in earnest, I never thought I would get what my friends and I call getting "blown out."

Getting blown out is going up to a woman or a group of women and then having them basically you’re your verbally or nonverbally to "get lost."

I can remember once, I teased this girl at a bar, and she was a total harpy, telling me this: "You're ugly; how dare you talk to me." Can you believe that; and she was a 4 in looks on top of it. Amazing. Today, if that happened--I wouldn't care at all, but back then about 6 years ago, it crushed my self-esteem for about 3 days.

Another time, I was at a bar and I was trying to perfect my "naughty banter" teasing lies, and I was too harsh. I actually came off as an asshole.

I said to 3 hot girls at the bar, "Hey, those are cool shoes . . .do they come in woman sizes? No, really that's a cool outfit--it's amazing what they sell at the Salvation Army these days!" They got so pissed at me, they threw their drinks in my face. I felt like the biggest loser. I just left the bar in total embarrassment.

I'm laughing my ass off right now thinking about it. But, at the time when it happened, it felt terrible.

But, the point here is that in order to get good with women and to get an attitude that you are better than the girl, you actually have to go through this and to be able to face social pressure. If you are able to do that, women will know that you have social power.

Remember, the person that reacts the least in any social interaction has all of the social power! Having the ability to be unflappable under any social situation requires the ability to withstand social pressure, and the only way to get to that point is to get experience GOOD or BAD from approaching and interacting with women in the social environment.

And if you get blown out really bad, know in your heart that when you get good with women, soon, you will be like me now laughing at all the times you got blown out, but at the same time, you will be grateful that all of those times made you a stronger person which gave you the social power to attract women.

--Kurgan