Meeting Yourself: Being Comfortable With You

Remember my big Concept I said to understand: The relationship you have with a woman is not about the relationship you have a woman you are attracted to--rather, it is the relationship you have with yourself!

Now, a lot of guys always ask me, "how do I do that?" Well, I wrote a post about "getting to know yourself." But, another way is to be comfortable with yourself and especially with yourself around women.

Now, how do you do that? Well, it's easy. Hang out with women, hot women.

You need to befriend hot women as friends. I would say that you should make friends with at least two to three women. Don't try to have sex with them, just be their friend.

A lot of times, you would approach a woman and ask her out on a date. If you are approaching enough women every day, inevitably, you will get the "Let's be friends" spiel. TAKE THEM UP ON IT!

Make them your friends. Take the effort to be their friends and keep it on a platonic level. What this does mean for you is that you can become comfortable around women. Too, more importantly, you can get a woman's perspective on relationships, sex, and dating.

This will be worth more than reading any course on pick up or dating.

Now, I'm going to give you a caveat here. Take their advice with "a grain of salt."

Women, you will notice if you hang out with them, are very competitive. So, sometimes they will give you not so good advice because, on some level, they want to have the upper hand, even if you are friends with them. That's why I said to make friends with at least 3 girls. That way, you will get different perspectives from them.

Too, you will notice with what ease women talk about sex! It's amazing.

I have had and have over 5 girlfriends, i.e., girls that are just platonic friends. I've been lucky, in that, I was always able to make friends with women. You have to learn this skill too. I've met my friends from various places: college classes, work, and friends of friends. Those are just some examples.

Hence, it is invaluable to become a woman's friend.

If you think this is not important, you will be alone. This is huge. Remember, if you see a fork in the road, take it!


--The Kurgan