Masculine Dominance

I am going to be blunt and to the point. In order for you to handle women you are going to have to be what I call “Masculinely Dominant.” Masculine dominance is like a man's inherited characteristic as a male, and because of that, women will behave naturally to this.

I’m starting to think that the key element to dating theory is a man's so-called masculine dominance: it's leading a woman and being a man about it. You know, we can call techniques in picking up a woman many things: frame control, keno or touching a woman, qualifying them, what I call "naughty banter", leading, you making the decisions in things, and all that; but I now believe masculine dominance is the underlying element to all parts of dating and pick up.

I mean, keno is like leading to me. If you don’t touch a woman right away, it’s like a passive DLV, showing the girl that you cannot lead and that you are not confident. If you don't have the "balls" to start touching, she will think that you are not into her and thus she will lose interest. Touching is part of leading and that to me is about confidence and that is innergame stuff which has to do with being a man.

This is such an important factor in attracting women and more importantly, holding a relationship after the initial dating phase. But, I can’t tell you how many guys I try to explain this to and it’s hard for them to fathom.

But it is really simple to understand once you know it. I can only hope that the men who are reading this blog will fully understand what I mean in this post.

I know when I started to learn about this stuff, I was clueless . . . even hostile to it because I thought it was demeaning to women. It's basically like being an asshole to women. But, the reality is, the more masculine you are, the more feminine a women you will attract. I know it sounds crazy but it’s true.

It all goes back to human evolution. A woman wants a man to protect her, to lead her, to tell her what to do. If you want to get a full appreciation of this, just watch a couple episodes of Man vs. Wild. (By the way, I have a lot of hot girlfriends that think Bear Grylls is super sexy even though he eats dead sheep eyeballs and stuff like that. ) Masculine strength awakens that primal side of women.

If you think I’m full of shit, just go up to a random women and ask her if she likes it when a man she is interested in doesn’t know where to take her for dinner on the first date. You know, when she asks you, “Where do you want to eat?” And you reply, "I don’t know, where do you want to eat?” That's the opposite of masculine dominance. It's just not physical strength, but psychological in its manifestations.

If you say and behave like that, she will lose interest super fast. Women aren’t attracted to men who are indecisive and weak, neuter and indecisive sexually, the opposite of what I'm talking about. The problem with men today and the reason for wimpy men is that there never was a manual on how to be a man.

Men were way more masculine 2 generations ago. If you don’t believe me, ask your grandfather if he’s still alive. Men are such wimps today.

I would much rather have you act like an “asshole” than a “nice guy.” A woman is way more attracted to an “asshole” than a “nice guy” because the asshole has something other than the girl in his life. The nice guy will become “creepy-stocker-that-never-had-sex-before” guy, which women loath. Don’t be the nice guy.

So, let's look at the elements that I call masculine dominance:

1. Having stronger beliefs than her [Making her chase you, Having the ability to “walk away.”]

- You are the prize

- Your life is more important than hers

- "What's in it for me" attitude

- I'm more important than her

2. Leading

- Keno escalation or touching

- Telling her what to do rather than asking

- You plan things to do that is on your terms

- Taking the role of being the man: open the door for her, being her protector, ect.

- humor and teasing--it shows dominance

3. Being a sexual man

- you make no apologies about your sexual desire as a man

- You understand that women have desire that are even greater than yours and you never judge her for them because it is

If you show these traits to a woman, you will attract her. Indeed, you will be able to attract her, but, more importantly, you will be able to sustain the relationship as well.

99% of women hate men that act psychologically like women. Think about the opposite of the list I made:

1.Having weaker beliefs than the women

2.Having the women lead

3.Being an asexual man and having her tell you what to do

We call a man that has those traits “pansies,” girly- man, wimp, chump, or chode. Think about it.

If you don’t believe me, just observe girls. What do they want to be “when they grow up?” A Princess.

Think about the feminine mind here for a minute. Girls are always playing with doll when they are growing up.

Some feminist nuts will say that that is a “learnt” behavior that was taught to them and is not biological. But that is utter bullshit. I want those feminists to watch Man Vs. Wild or Survival Man. No, better yet, let's put those women in the middle of the wilderness and see what happens . . .haha! There is no way that a woman can do what they do.

Look, I am a social scientist and I am here to tell you that men and women, while having both equal value as human beings are not equal, gender wise. You need to understand that when it comes to attracting women and maintaining a relationship with them.

Think about this important point: By contrast, boys want to be super heroes when they “grow up.”

Spiderman, Superman, Batman: these are all masculine archetypes. They represent masculine energy and are the basis for the masculine mindset.

For women it’s Cinderella, Snow White, and Sleeping Beauty. They are all waiting for “Prince Charming!” You have to be like prince charming, and to be him, you must show dominance. (No, I’m not talking about hitting women or showing them violence. I’m talking psychological dominance.)



–Kurgan